Dr Paul and Maxine O
COMMUNICATION IN SOBER RELATIONSHIPS Workshop
at 6th GRATITUDE ROUNDUP
NOVEMBER 25,1995
17 Tracks 66 Minutes

MAX speaks first.
Difficulty getting Paul to talk when he was drinking and druging.
Communication improved but their communication problems persisted.
How they progressed to the point were they talk about their feelings.
How she didn't even know how she felt before she began to grow spiritually in the alanon program.
Learned to not try not to convert Paul to her way of thinking.
Talks about the importance of haveing and enjoying ones own interests.
Dr. Paul speaks.
Begins by mentioning that he and Max have been married 56 years(at the time of the talk), and that he has been sober for 28 years(at the time of the talk).
Introduces the idea that if one is not going to drink or divorce then one must work on the problems.
Talks about how he and his wife are very different types of people in many ways.
Tells some humourous stories about putting problems in proper perspective.
How he found many answers when he approached his relationship like a hobby. Read up on relationships, tried new ways of working on problems and doing things together.
Found out it's not the problems(kids money etc) that cause the problems. Relationships that work well have those same difficulties.
Three things that good relationships have.
How when drinking he wasalways trying to change her and she him. What they did.
The importance of finding newways to experess love.
QUESTION AND ANSWER SESSION
Questions included How do you bring up concerns for discussion?
What about alcoholics attending Alanon meetings? This answer full of practical advice.
A really good tape for someone who is looking for new ideas about how to improve their relationship with their spouse.
A lot of good practical advice about liveing a sober life of recovery.

Dr Paul Ohlinger of Laguna Beach, CA
at International Doctors in AA
August 21, 1980
8 Tracks ~ 38 Minutes

Dr Paul O gives a great talk with some Medical Humour to a group of Medical Doctors in recovery

Dr Paul O is asked to speak about the 12 Steps of AA and does

Dr Paul Ohlinger of Laguna Nigel California
at Springtime in the Ozarks
Eureka Springs, Arkansas ~ April 15, 1993
11 Tracks 53 Minutes

Dr Paul O tells his recovery story at AA Conference

Maxine O tells her recovery story at AA Conference