When we were both teenagers, I remember my friend Vanessa used to tell me why she had a lot of boyfriends. It was because she hated the fact that after a few dates they would fall in love with her, and begin the "clingy" process of being: overprotective, jealous, whinny, too affectionate, and include 24/7 phone calls (in those days....now it would probably be texts). She hated the fact that they were no longer a "challenge", and would then break up with them. Everyone loves the "popular" uninterested guy, or girl until they become that "clingy" person Vanessa would describe to me. That is one of the main ideas I took from reading this book. It was awesome advise I have never heard before, but makes so much sense.
Who does the unfaithful spouse go after? The sexy, independent guy/girl that plays hard to get, or the one calling him/her every ten seconds wanting attention (you know like "Fatal Attraction")? This book is just so clear. In speaking to my teenage daughter about boys I made this point plain and simple, as well: How do dogs act when they want your attention? They go crazy wagging their tail running all over the place, some jump on you, some scratch doors, windows, or any type of wall that gets in the way of you and them, some whimper, howl, or bark when they CAN'T get your attention, etc.. I said, "When you find yourself doing any of these characteristics, you have lost respect for yourself, and everything that comes with that action, including humiliating yourself." Who is attracted to that? Nope, not even the spouse that promised to be with you for the rest of his/her life. So, if you want more on this subject, definately buy this book. (Again, this is what I took out of the book).
